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  • Events.

    We were at Ren's place, on the bed while Ren Ambz and Yayu were playing Mario Kart 64 and then Super Smash on the Gamecube. He was laying in my lap and playing with my hair. 

    "I love you"
    "I love you too"
    "My silly, PARANOID girl."
    "What??"
    "That's how you've been, right?"
    "How..."
    "I can read you."
    "You haven't even seen me."
    "I can read you."

    Doesn't see me for about a week (with the exception of us being half-asleep at Jean's) and knows somehow that I've been on the edge for the past few days. From what little I've said and what little I've done, he knows. I can't figure out whether or not I should be used to that already...I probably should be. I think I'm just easier to admit when he's right about something. 

    And then lying in bed, hours later. Your nose against the skin of my back, kissing it gently. Holding me, telling me that you love me. 

    It being two in the morning but you not wanting to leave. Me hovering over you, kissing you and whispering into your ear that you have to get up. You shaking your head, whispering back that you don't want to and holding me closer. 

    I love being able to roll around in bed with you, laughing and talking about nothing and messing around with each other. Clothed. Naked. Wet. Dry. Whatever. 

    I love the look that you give me that says,"Yes, I'm happy. And yes, you stupid stupid girl, I love you."

    I love that you say to me "Don't worry. I still love you" when things don't always go right.

    I love that we deal with each other, for better or worse. That we get can mad, get irritable about shit that the other does. 

    I hate that I'm still wading in the shallow ends of the kiddie pool, scared out of my mind to go any deeper. But you are there, hand outstretched. Inviting me to take the dive with you. Saying to me, "I'm here. You're safe with me. You always will be."

    -- ZelleZ 

  • Same Salt, Different Beach

    It's January now. But a few weeks ago, I was with Auston at the beach. The sun was about to start setting and just like the last time, I was clad in nothing but a Sanchez shirt and some shorts. I was wearing slippers this time, though. 

    I stood there, ankle deep in the cool salt water while the breeze blew the hair out of my face. I watched and listened to the rhythms of the waves crashing on themselves. And as I did this, I again longed to be laying in the cool ocean. It was strange, though, because this time around it was different — be it my attitude as of late or the rose colored sunglasses I was looking through. 

    I stared at the ocean and just wanted to dive deep into its depths to relieve me of the weight from all of the stresses I've endured the past year. I wanted to close my eyes and feel the cool water engulf me, soothing my emotional scars and mental stresses. My boyfriend repeatedly walking way, leaving me scared that he'll never stay. My teacher almost failing me to keep me from graduating, leaving me feeling undeserving of all that I have been given. My loved ones standing at odds with each other, leaving me fearful that I'll end up alone in the world. My brother-in-law mumbling to the girls about how terrible I was to my exboyfriend, leaving me angry and untrusting of him and my other siblings. My sister standing at my door yelling at me about how shitty I am, leaving me without any faith that my family will ever stop being broken. These things I would nearly drown myself in the ocean for, trying to find salvation from it all.  

    I would dive and dive and dive into the ocean, as if repeatedly dipping in a bleeding foot that's scratched up from the coral, until I felt at ease and calm. Again, I would eventually stand and wade my way back to shore, letting the bright sun dry the water off of my skin. And I would be left with the sea salt still stinging, but healing, my closing wounds.

    -- ZelleZ

    Original Sea Salt: http://jello-girl42.xanga.com/723911731/sea-salt/

  • “I’ve got one year of active duty. I won’t be here all of 2013.”

    I couldn't think about anything else today. Just wanted it to hit me so I can let it out. All I could do was cry today. And that's really all that I did. I stayed in bed and cried. And cried. And cried. And it's not the absolute worst but I'm just in shock with how soon it is; it wasn't something I could exactly ease into. 

    "Do you even know what I'm doing in the military?"
    I did. "No."
    "Do you want to know?"
    "Sure."
    "Exactly what any parent doesn't want to hear their child doing."
    Quiet.
    "I'm going to be in the front line."
    "I know."
    "What's it called?"
    'Infantry.' Small smile. "Your face"
    "Infantry."
    Head nod. 'I know.' More quiet. Enter the tears that I both ended up falling asleep and waking up to.
    "Relax."
    Lip quivers. Voice shakes. "I am."
    "You can't hide shit from me."
    "I know."
    "Good and bad thing. Bad because you hate it."
    "I do."
    More tears and I wished that I could stay longer so I could make it stop but I can't. I can't. I still can't.
    "Go listen to My Chemical Romance."
    A laugh. 'I'll listen to Incubus.'
    I love you's and kisses.
    "Actually, no. Go listen to Incubus."
    Heart drops. "I was going to." 

    Interestingly enough, there's only one person who I know I need. One woman I know I can be around. Who no matter what I do and how much I could possibly screw up, will still accept me despite not admitting it. Who has been there for me since before I can remember and who I can't not remember. Who I picked up watching TV to make me sleep when he's not there from [the only male I've ever done that about]. Who taught me how to love books and knowledge. Who pretty much shaped the base of who I became today. And Good Lord, if there was anything I could possibly do to make up every time I've broken her heart I would go to the ends of the earth to do it. Who, unbeknownst to both him and her, has played a great role in my relationship with Mr. Murphy. Who I instantly thought of during this conversation:

    "Iris."
    "What?"
    "A girl's name. Iris. Like Irish without the H."
    'Huh. How perfect.' "And you're assuming the mother of your children will let you decide that?"
    "She will."
    "How do you know that?"
    "Because she's right here."

    Mrs. Ramos, I miss you. Ningy, please please please please please come home this summer. I know I haven't always made it known how much I love you. And I know how much I've taken you for granted. And I know that I've had my rough thoughts and emotions in regards to you. How you annoy me. How you anger me. How you make me sad. But I wish so much that I haven't been so resistant towards you.  

    And I need you so much it's ridiculous. I think you might love him just as much as I do. He's nice. I hope you don't scare him. You've always given off that authoritative persona...think I might've picked that up too.

    Anyway, I'll be strong. I will pull through. It's just a really hard pill to swallow. But give me some water and I'll be fine. I'll be here for you. I will support you. Whatever you need, I'll be your girl. Just remind me that you need me.   

    -- ZelleZ

  • RE: Mr. Lonely

    I believe we discussed you anticipating anything that could possibly throw off the nature of any of your relationships. It's a shame though that it had to have happened. I am up writing to you because I myself cannot find it in me to sleep so I shall share some words with you before my next attempt to drift off into slumberland. Be wary though, as much as I'm up I'm not exactly coherent and my eyes keep zooming in and out of the computer screen. I hope that this means that I am tired.

    And though it's a shame, you have you consider why you went through with it in the first place. You hadn't had any intention but you did want to form some sense of accomplishment in a department, am I right? Perhaps if I am wrong then you shall be deemed the village idiot but I believe that spot has already been filled. 

    And while life and feelings and people are everchanging, be aware that everything will be beautiful in the end. And I'm sure you're already aware of that. And perhaps I'm not the best person to consult of loneliness in regards to relationships for I have been one of the lucky few to have found the boy. And if I'm very unlucky, perhaps there'll be another.

    And perhaps shit happens. And perhaps shit will always happen. People walk into your life and teach you a lesson before ever walking out. Remember that. It's all about perspective, really. And though that's something to remember so is this: there will be those who never walk out and keep teaching you and keep learning with you. Finding those people will make every ounce of hardship worth it. Remember that we are just beginning. But don't worry, love, you will be powering through and raging on like the amazing person I know you are and were meant to be. 

    -- ZelleZ

  • Reboots.

    After two days of wondering and logging into Evernote my points and motives behind Wednesday's spiel, I've wandered back into my teapot and I'm deathly afraid to come out for the cat will come and get me. And while I sit here, distracting myself with the forum posts I'm typing the time keeps seeming to drag on between my antsy and borderline depressive mood and the time I'm going to check on the boy to see if he can soothe me into a slumber. I'm deathly afraid that everything's going to fall apart and the time between now and the coming Wednesday keeps lagging and it feels like it's never going to come. And today I realized just how close I hold every one of these people. And should anything ended up manifesting into the opposite reaction, I would be at fault for the last tea time. And I realized that I don't know how to handle this after I've already given up on my bloodline. 

    "My greatest fear is that one day, I'm going to do something to screw everything up and everyone who I love and hold close to my heart will get up and abandon me. And I'll be alone after that."

    I did it in the best interests of the group, — at least what I presumed to be — to keep us together and to nudge us in the direction of openness. I know that all of this should take time but I'm not patient and I'm driving myself insane.

    Will I still have my amazing second family at the end of this? The girl whose crazy antics keep me entertained enough for me to live through her. The girl who has one of the amazing hearts I've seen. The girl who would do anything to protect me. The boy who drops everything when I need him. The boy who who brings the cookie mix. The girl who purposely keeps herself oblivious. The boy who keeps me grounded. The girl who coddles me and follows me on my crazy whims. The boy who stole my heart and took off with it. Will we be strong enough TOGETHER to make it through all of this, despite our great weaknesses? 

    This is all on me. The pressure. Of all of it. And I'm going to do everything I can to keep us above water. If no one else will, I will. As long as everyone loves me the way that I do, I will. I promise. I won't ever let you guys down. I won't ever hurt you guys (detrimentally). And I will prove to all of you that this will be worth it. You have my word.

    "You guys gave me something to look forward to every Wednesday."

    -- ZelleZ

    Violet light. Violet light. Conquer all with violet light. 

  • NYE

    And so for the last time for the year 2011, spontaneity ran its course and I rang in the new year like so. I spent the first few hours of the evening with what little family members showed up at my house tonight. I had some dinner and then earned myself a text message from the princess. An hour later, I found myself in his stupid rental car that he's using until his Altima gets out of the shop.

    "So I thought about ending this year and when I was most happiest. And I remember that my favorite part of this year was the summer. So if I had to spend it with any one else it'd be you." Of course, that earned him a little bit of me being a total sobfest. So we stopped by the Nikko and got ourselves some metallic rapist shades in the shape of stars and headed for the roof of K-mart. There we sat and talked and chilled like the badasses that we are. I spoke of being scared of not knowing that Coyce is going to be the one I end up with and he agreed. He was fearful of it, too. Not just because of how I feel but because "if you lose Coyce, we're going to lose you." And I could not deny it; I told him it was true. Then he asked me about some relationship things and I told him what I thought. He found what he needed.

    Then we parted ways to spend time with those who we call significant others.

    On the way to Coyce's I said while Rhythm of Love was playing, "Princess, no matter what happens this year. No matter what kinda shit. Let us always remember this moment. Being chill and happy." 

    And at Coyce's house, I walked right to the front door. This is significant because apparently his dog attacks and bites everyone who passes through. "You just walked by my dog?" "Yeah, why?" "Everyone is scared of it." Krizpen freaked out about it too. I thought it was normal but I guess it adds to the "everyone loves Zelle" thing. Faith jumped up and hugged me when I got in. She showed me a blanket that her auntie knitted and then told me she'd teach me how to play Monopoly. So she did. She also told me that she liked my nails. In the meanwhile, Coyce was gaming. Then his momma walked out, wondering who the littlest Murphy was talking to. We had little conversation about haircuts and church before I got too frazzled and focused completely on Faith and the game. 

    And then we went to Ryan's place and it was just Ryan, Coyce, Krizpen and I for a while until Ed came. And we stood around until the clock struck midnight and the boy stole his first NYE kiss from me. As well ast he first NYE kiss I've actually wanted.

    Hmm. So all the events were random and I didn't expect any of that. Sort of like how I didn't expect anything that happened in 2011 to happen. I didn't expect to fall for Coyce. I didn't expect to get along with the bears so well. I didn't expect to stay home. I didn't expect Fernandez to pass me to graduate. I didn't expect to befriend the girls who are FRUIT. I didn't expect Ryan to become one of my closer friends, nor Sal. I didn't expect anything, any of this. And I loved every single minute of it.

    I ended the year with the exact same spontaneity I started it with. Happy New Year's Folks. 

    -- ZelleZ

    P.S. The actual NY blog is coming up. Dun worry.

  • No turkey

    [This is the Thanksgiving blog I forgot to post]

    Waking up at quarter to three, eating a lonely bowl of pancit, finding a twenty dollar bill placed strategically on the table under a keychain for me to see. Now I sit, contemplating what my course of action for the rest of the day shall be. Perhaps I'll spend it reading or doing homework. Cleaning, I'm sure. 

    For the first time in my entire life, there will be no Thanksgiving Dinner at my home. There will be no turkey. There will be no pie. There will be no house full of loud people, laughing and wondering where all the time went in between now and Easter, which is generally the last we saw of each other. And strangely enough, I'm not even upset. Call it strange or selfish or what have you but I'm enjoying the alone time being spent in my huge empty house. 

    The reason being that I don't really need to see my blood relations this Thanksgiving night. Because the people who are the most important to me, who I care the most about being on Thanksgiving...I spent with last night. My second family. And I can't help but be thankful for everyone who did, especially Ren who attended despite the illness. 

    And the thing is that I can't help but be thankful for everyone who has played an important part of my life. 

    To my family, who taught me that you might not be able to care for and trust the people you were supposed to. 
    To Jeremy, who taught me that not everyone you fall in love with is going to be good for you. 
    To Stephen, who taught me that you really can't trust everyone you meet.
    To my big sister, who taught me that if you're not careful that love can blind you.
    To my mother, who taught me to be careful of everyone you meet and everything you do.
    To dad, who taught me who not to look for in a man. And that somewhere down the road, people will let you down.

    To my Godmother, who taught me that it's okay to go a little crazy sometimes.
    To my two cousins, who gave me the appreciation of literature and all things knowledgeable and nerdy.
    To Soap, who taught me that something good CAN come out of something shitty.
    To Lauren, who shows me it's always a good idea to sit and watch for a while before deciding how to act or even if to act.
    To Edmar, who cooked for us and was always, in the little ways you could, there for me every time Coyce broke my heart. And if there are two people that I trust the most about dealing with him it'd be you and Yayu.
    To Auston, who reminds me that it's okay to be alone sometimes and that you really do have to make the best out of what you have. And that the best things in life are spontaneous.

    To Megan, who I am telling you all is my fucking soul mate (but I know we'll never marry). But if there's anyone I know that needs to be cared for and loved, it's her.
    To Nathaniel, who puts up with my shit. Period.
    To Salvador, who I know will be there when I need him the most. Who will pick me up at a street corner in the pouring rain while I cry my eyes out for no reason.
    To Cathy, who reminds me that girls just want to have some fucking fun. So why not?
    To Angie, who teaches me that it's not always rainbows and butterflies but gives me a reason to smile for someone else if not for myself.
    To Mharjie, who pets me and encourages me to be the crazy ball of energy I am. Who also is showing me the fine lines of good ideas and irrational ones.
    To Amber, who tells me it's okay to follow your gut and be impulsive once in a while
    To Ryan, who is slowly teaching me to relax and smell the roses.
    To my auntie and uncle, who I don't often thank enough but have done nothing but provide me with what they can and spoil me for no reason.
    To my twin sister, who reminds me that there will always be a rainbow after every hurricane. Who reminds me that smiling is the best thing that you can create. And that anyone can really get wherever they want to be if they push themselves enough; that anything is possible.

    To the boy. Because he teaches me that people at some point in your life will let you down and disappoint you. That you will get lonely and that someone is going to break your heart and that love can blind you. That you have to be careful about everything you do. That not everything is rainbows and butterflies. But he teaches me that something good can always come out of something shitty, that there is always a rainbow after every hurricane. That it's okay to follow your gut and be impulsive. That the best things really do come from spontaneity. That it's all right to go a little crazy sometimes. That sometimes you gotta just relax and smell the roses. 

    He's someone who I know who needs to be loved and cared for. He puts up with my shit [and vice versa]. He would pick me up at a corner in the pouring rain while I cry my eyes out for no reason as well as sit and listen to me babble while I sit during a power outage. He has instilled in me one thing that no one has ever done before: patience. Be it for him, for my family or for any of my friends he has turned me into someone I would never be able to stand a year ago — someone who will sit and wait and just be there for you while you go crazy. And I swear to you...he's [like] my fucking soulmate.

    To the big guy upstairs who was gracious enough to give me this life and let me live it every day. Who I owe for the blood running through my veins and the air filling my lungs. For every morning that I'm able to open my eyes. For every word I've been able to speak. For every one I've been able to meet. For the boy. 

    Everyone who walks in and out of your life comes in and teaches you a lesson. The problem is to remember that though they may not stick around for long, they were there for a reason.

    And so, I know that I didn't need the turkey to have a Happy Thanksgiving. I just needed my friends, my boy, a few bags of McDonalds, cookies, brownies, hot tea, and a Magic Mic. 

    -- ZelleZ 

  • Evernote Entry: December 29 2011 0302AM

    So I just got off the vidcall with Megan and I'm suddenly a very happy camper. I wanted few things this Christmas. Among them were more cows, more pens, a new cellphone, to indulge myself in WonderWoman, getting into WG101, a happy and attentive boyfriend, and to meet the Murphy's. I believe that sums up every single thing I wanted for Christmas. And almost forgetting that I bought myself new pens recently, I realized that I am complete on my wishlist. It was all I wanted and I got every single one this Christmas. And I thank everyone who cares enough about me to have attended to that. And I thank my idiot and, I hate to admit it, loving boyfriend. 

    And to God for blessing me with the life I have and the people who surround me on the regular basis. Thank you, Father, for giving me everything I've ever needed this past year. The life. The strength. The smiles. The people. The love. The kinship. I am truly blessed and I know I've done nothing but say: I can't wait to finally find my place with you. But I am incredibly ecstatic to do so. Once my complete and careful front to back observation of your word [?] is finished and Megan is home for me [us?] to start mapping out destinations, my spiritual journey starts. And I can't wait to fully feel your love and I can't wait to start to give back to you the way you have oh so graciously given me.  

    I'm truly happy. And perhaps I don't deserve any of it — Lord knows the list of people who will say so — but I am happy and I won't let anything get in the way. I'm ecstatic for 2012. Despite the fact that 2011 was a terrible year in retrospect, I loved every minute of it. I would not have changed a single thing. Bring on the new year because I know that it's all just begun. I'm starting off the year in high hopes and I am confident that it will do me some good. 

    Spontaneity did me some good in 2011 but 2012 will be a different year. It will be full of thoughtful planning and joyous events. And perhaps it won't go according to my plan, but I know God has one that's much better for me anyway.

    -- ZelleZ

  • There you go again.

    Making it quite impossible to stay mad at you for petty things. Perhaps that's a reminder for me to not get mad at petty things.

    I finally met them today after a text message waking me up, requesting my attendance at his home for a brother bears movie night. Faith is adorably talkative and I feel bad for not completely keeping up. I did enjoy speaking to her and the fact that she kept coming in close to give me a squeeze once in a while so perhaps that means she likes me. And his momma told me that she cries at everything too, after every one was teasing me for holding it all back during Man From Nowhere. All in all the night was well and I got my presents from Allen. I am, for some reason, pooped but it might be because I didn't hydrate myself for the entirety I was there. He looked so tired. So so tired.

    Oh my dear Lord, I hope they like me. -.-"

    "Wasn't that bad. Spazz."

    "Shut up."

    And I enjoyed the moments that we just sat there simply holding hands. It was nice. 

    Perhaps I'll be back soon.

    -- ZelleZ

  • I need. To. Break.

    I don't know how but I need to figure out how to get everything out. Like. Soon. Before the end of the year. Week. Fuck, it's the same shit either way. Just need. To release. Soon. Agh.

    Anyway, as the night sort of dragged on and I lay around as Coyce slept beside me [during and after the party] I was thinking of how incredibly temperamental I've gotten. And it's the ridiculous kind; the kind that made me almost snap at Salvador again. That little bitch is going down, I swear. RAWRAWRAWR. FUCK. HE PISSES ME OFF SOMETIMES. Like a cocky fucking Nathaniel and I want to fucking shoot him. Ugh. 

    Anyway, just throwing out there that I'm bitter about everything. Don't think there's a right or wrong answer to it. Just two sides of the same story. And I won't guarantee that I won't push the same way you can't guarantee you'll open the door. "Penny. Penny. Penny. Penny. Penny. Penny." 

    -- ZelleZ